When my members tell me they’re “stuck”, I really feel for them. I’ve been there myself. Ohhhh so many times! But I also get super excited for them, because being stuck is actually kind of awesome.
I know it sounds nonsensical, but it’s really true! So why, you might ask, is it awesome? Because feeling “stuck” is just a big fat sign to pay attention. It’s kind of like getting a stuffy nose. Yeah, you could ignore it and keep pushing yourself to go go go, full steam ahead. But what if, instead, you got a little extra rest and figured out what you could be doing to take good care of your body?
When you’re feeling “stuck’ it means that you want to go further. You want a thriving business and a better life - you just aren’t making it happen yet. And that "stuckness" you’re feeling is telling you to take a step back and figure out what you could be doing to take good care of your goals!
So the big question is HOW then, right!? How do you figure it out? Why do you feel this way? Here are some things you can do to evaluate where you’re stuck and how to move forward:
Don’t fight it!
As if you had a cold, just accept it and cancel all your meetings for an afternoon to take a break from it all. And make it fun! Watch netflix, get a massage, or go for a walk to clear your head. Not only will it give your brain a chance to work in the background on your problem, you’ll be making better decisions because it’s from a place of enjoyment.
Feed yourself the good stuff
It’s time for some chicken soup and vitamin C.... So stop telling yourself that you’re not experienced enough, unproductive, or stupid for not figuring this out! I know it’s hard to shut down the inner bully when everyone else seems to be doing so well, and you’re way behind on your revenue goals. But you’re just feeding yourself garbage, and you know it. Right now your head needs some good nutrition, so train that voice to start encouraging you to believe in your genius.
Listen to your body
Take this opportunity to pay attention to what your gut is telling you. Your body gives you big clues, and it’s what led to this feeling of stuckness in the first place! Follow that feeling and dig deep to determine which areas of your business are causing this feeling. Then make one easy adjustment to that area of your business! If you’re constantly feeling rushed, for example, maybe you should add an extra 15 minutes between appointments. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, cut back to focus on only one thing for the week. Whatever you do, don’t ignore the thing that is needing your care. A little love in one small area can lead to big progress in your business as a whole.
Talk to someone who’s been there
The problem that I see most “stuck” entrepreneurs face is that you don’t know who to turn to for business advice. That’s because, for the first time, you can’t get this crucial guidance from your closest friends and family anymore. Even if friends are outwardly supportive, most of them just can’t understand why you started a business when they’ve never done it themselves. They inadvertently keep you from getting unstuck because they don’t want you to break away from societal norms. The result is all kinds of conflicting advice, which leads to huge uncertainty in your own decisions. You need support from like-minded entrepreneurs who truly understand what you’re going through, so you’ll get relevant and unbiased input.
That’s why I am introducing you to my friend Brenda Bryan. She is a Transformational Coach and Mastermind Facilitator Brenda Bryan, and has formed The Business Trust, a Mastermind Group created to give entrepreneurs the wisdom and support from people you can depend on. This group will be made up of other entrepreneurs like you that have been in business for 1-3 years, facing many of the same issues. You will be placed with those who have skills and backgrounds that complement your own, making you much more likely to benefit from each other and succeed in your business.
I met Brenda through the eWomen Network organization here in Portland I chose to help her promote this Mastermind Group because of her expertise in helping entrepreneurs live in their genius.
With a degree in communications design, Brenda spent 16 years facilitating meetings and conflict resolution at a women’s center in Nova Scotia. Realizing so many women didn’t know how to handle their childhood stories, she left for Heartwood Institute in order to train for her transformational certification, to help others to feel empowered in their voice. She continued her career there teaching community living skills, including conflict resolution, emotional therapy work, and facilitating thousands of meetings for over 10 years.
Now Brenda brings her deep expertise of communication to the spiritual aspects of personal transformation to help business women thrive at their highest talents through one-on-one coaching, workshops, and stages around the country. She’s determined to help women see how they have the power within themselves to make change and ask for what they want.
If The Business Trust sounds interesting to you, please visit this page for a more detailed description of our mastermind group with information on how to apply. The most important quality we are looking for are people that are committed to accomplishing their goals and helping their fellow members do the same. There is limited space, so apply as soon as possible if you are interested.
If you realize that a group support system is something you lack, I urge you to check out Brenda's Master Mind group and move past where you’re stuck and claim the business and life you see for yourself.